More Mom than Un, sorry
Saturday, July 11, 2009 at 8:12PM On Monday I'm heading out to the highly cosmopolitan city of Winterpeg to see No Doubt in concert. And I'm kind of freaking out.
Not about the concert, although I imagine it will be fabulous and Gwen Stefani will spot fellow moms through the crowd and invite us backstage to drink wine and give each other pedicures while playing dress-up in the latest L.A.M.B. goods. No, I'm freaking out because I'm going to be away from my son overnight.
I don't talk about parenting or my kid much on this blog and that's because it's the UN Mom. So this isn't about parenting or my kid. This is about me being a big fucking softie and crying about leaving my toddler alone with, horrors, his father, oh boo hoo.
I mean, seriously, it's not like I'm sticking him in a cage for the duration. He'll be fine (though hubby may have some scarring). I've just never been away from him for more than 8 or 9 hours, and never overnight. I'm going to miss him.
Okay, I'm not going to miss the temper tantrums he's been throwing at every diaper change and nap time and for that matter, it'll be nice to be in company that's continent. And I'm not going to miss the random wake ups (yes, still) that only seem to occur after I've JUST drifted off to sleep.
But, still. What if he needs me? What if he has a nightmare and I'm not there to rock him and pat his little back?
I mean, it'll be nice to have a whole bed all to myself and no toddler-clock and there's very little chance that anyone will wake up covered in their own feces. And it might be nice to walk through a crowd without being perpetually on the edge of a panic attack that my companion will be abducted when I glance away. Or eat a meal without having something thrown at my head, or drink my coffee without having to explain that it's "hot, I said it's hot, no don't touch I said it's HOT wait awwwwww....well what did I just tell you?"
Hm.
You know what? I think he'll be fine.
concerts, more mom than un
Reader Comments (29)
Dude, there's NO DOUBT he'll be fine. That was a play on words, you see. Oh hell, nevermind.
That effin ROCKS that you're getting away for the night and you deserve it! X will be fine, he's with his dad and it seems like he's pretty competent or you wouldn't be procreating with or marrying him, right? I'm kidless next weekend too but I'm getting my boobs hacked off in the process. Totally different scenario since I get Vicoden and you get Gwen Stefani! I like Gwen though...
Have fun at the concert! X will be just fine with his father, although they don't seem to know all the tricks that mommas do. You'll be back before you know it!
You go, Keely! Heh...I like Casey's No Doubt ref thrown in. X will rock out with his dad. Lucky you!
OMG! I am SO JEALOUS that you get to go to a No Doubt concert!!!!! Seriously....so jealous. Like, u know I'm thinking that your son IS too young to be left home alone..um, I mean...w/ dad (same thing) and this may cause irrevocable damage to him so unless you want to be footin' the bill for at least 40 years of therapy, it's just cheaper to send ME the tickets. I'll do that for you....AND your son.
Just sayin'.....think about it.
~Stephanie
oh darling. i have SO BEEN THERE. coming from experience ... it's near impossible ... until you are about 10-15 minutes away. and then seriously ... you are so busy that you kinda really enjoy yourself.
not in the i love experiencing everything with my offspring way. but in the oh-yeah. i really am a human being that doesn't have to be attached to my children to enjoy life ... kinda way.
it's weird and liberating. and so completely totally awesome when you get back home...because you will be missed. and it sometimes feels good to be missed too.
He'll be just fine. Enjoy your time away. Sleep late. Do grown-up things. It'll all be good.
Enjoy the concert! :)
Have a great time! I totally know where you're coming from -- only recently have I started leaving my toddler for a few hours at a time, and it's hard enough! At the same time, I think you'll have so much fun, I'm totally jealous, and I'm sure your son will be just fine.
If you want, think of my mother-in-law's (probably most annoying) piece of advice: if the mother is nervous about leaving her child, the child will sense it and be miserable, whereas if she's happy, the child will be fine. (See -- it's all our fault either way!)
I'm joking about the advice -- have a great time! :)
Dads are a lot more competent than they seem! They just pretend to be clueless to get out of doing things on a regular basis! Have no fear!
I was away overnight from my son for the first time when my husband and I went to a wedding in North Carolina in May 2007 - he was 18 months old. I was very anxious about it, but it ended up being WAY easier than I thought it would be, and we stayed busy (as it sounds like you will be) and honestly, I didn't think about him *that* much.
he WILL be fine and you are going to have a KICK ASS time!
and then, when you go back? you can have a nice conditioning mask of poopie on your hair.
as a mom of four mommy-maimers let me just say this...DON'T EVEN FUCKING THINK TWICE ABOUT IT!
Trust me, enjoy the time, know that your son is safe with his daddy and that they are having some necessary daddy-son time.
Cheers
Jackie
What???? No one waking up covered in crap? What kind of rock concert is this???? ;)
Have a great time.
Kids do grow up, in spite of themselves.
He'll be fine! Now, can you do me a favor and tell ME the same thing when I have to leave Sprite with John for 4 days in less than two weeks?
I haven't stayed over night away from my little one either and I'd be the same way. I know you'll have fun (or have) but you're going to worry, just like I would!
He'll be fine! I was the same way before my trip in May and we were all ok. See the show, party like a rock star and sleep late!
Enjoy the concert! I'm jealous.
I've only left my son overnight once so far. It's a big deal. But they will both be fine.
The munchkin will be good! enjoy the SHIT out of No Doubt!
You're going to see NO DOUBT.. an overnight without the toddler will be over sooner than you think.. :)
you have separation anxiety, I get like that too, every time I leave without Lucas.. and I've never been away from him for more than 5 hours..
I left my son for the first time when he was 7 months old to go on an overnight canoe trip with my husband. I left him with my MIL, which made me very nervous. They were at my house. I wrote out his ENTIRE schedule in DETAIL! Of course, they didn't follow it, but it made me feel a little better. I stress little. I cried almost the entire way. I had a great time, but in the morning, I was all about getting off the damn river, so I could get home to my son!
I'm glad I did it, but I don't plan on leaving him again for a while!
No Doubt! So awesome. Have a great time.
The one serious downside to parenting....you never get to *really* relax and have fun again. I mean, you'll relax and have fun, but that little nagging gut feeling thing never entirely goes away. It sucks.
Oh you lucky girl! LOL on Casey's comment...I agree! ;) It'll be tough, but go have fun, party like a rock star and all will be good when you get home! ;)
you are going to love it. the best part will be the gigantic hug waiting for you when you get home.
You think this is bad, just wait until you come back and he is (gasp) ok. Are even worse.... he tells you something totally cool that he and dad did while you were gone. Like he gets to make cookies and watch all the cartoons he wants or something.
Being a mom is hard.
i have that feeling when i leave my kids too - but it goes away after 10 or 20 minutes of irresponsible fun.